“I’ve dated two guys who were 20–25 years older than me.”
“Pros: Older and wiser really is true. It was nice to be with someone more centered, well read, and knowledgeable than guys my own age. I also liked that they were more polite, took me out for nice meals, and seemed more dedicated than the guys I dated before. Less fear of commitment, less jealousy.
Cons: People telling me to hurry up with having children because otherwise they’d have a really old dad — I wasn’t ready to have children at all. Also, people assuming I was shopping with my dad. It was big turn off for me. Lastly, judgment from others, ranging from family (they worried I was being taken advantage of) to exes to strangers. Feeling like you have to explain yourself and defend your relationship all the time.
However, I’m now in a serious relationship with someone my own age and I have to say I prefer it this way. It’s easier to relate and think about the future with someone who’s at the same point in life as I am.”